Tuesday, 18 September 2012

Article : To mother or smother?

Becoming a parent is undoubtedly the most exciting and life-changing event that a human can experience.Of course,welcoming your bundle of joy into the world is only the beginning.The parenting path is riddled with pitfalls and you’re sure to be tested to the extreme by the many trials and tribulations of trying to bring up your baby as best you can. 

Of course, parenthood is often a process of trial and error and different approaches work for different families. Some parents are relaxed, while others are quite rigid with routines, rewards and discipline. Usually though, all parents have one common desire and that’s the desire for their children to have the best in life. After all, it’s only natural for a parent to want their offspring to have every possible advantage. They want their children to feel loved, cherished and safe. As a result they will endeavour to protect them from the many dangers, both real and perceived, that await them in an uncertain, wide world. 

This natural desire can, however, become all-consuming and lead to overprotective parenting. The term ‘helicopter’ parent conveys this notion to a tee, when you see a mother or father hovering incessantly over their child, sprinting to the scene to right a playground wrong or haranguing a teacher over the tiniest detail of their child’s development. 

Parents sometimes seem unable to trust in their children’s desire to be competent. They feel the need to intervene incessantly and don’t allow for nature to take its course. It’s important as children mature to take a step back and allow them to develop their own coping skills. A parent doesn’t need to be glued to their child’s side for them to feel secure. Allowing your child to have some responsibility at an appropriate age will promote a sense of self-confidence. There’s no harm in your teenager running an errand for you, popping to the corner shop to pick up a Collect plus parcel, for example. 

Children need to develop a sense of their own competence. They need to learn that they’re able to pick themselves up after a fall and to gain the confidence that comes from grappling with a little adversity. Life will inevitably throw up numerous challenges and children need to experience a little disappointment to realise that they have the skills and self-efficacy to be able to deal with them. By encouraging your child to become self-sufficient, you strengthen the parental bond and allow them to spread their wings.

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